Just Married..

Hello Readers!!

 I met a really filmy couple a few days back. While travelling in train from Gurgaon to my home town, I got a chance to sit with two 'just married love-birds'. Their gestures were making it pretty evident that they were JUST married. (If you know, what I mean here! Lol !!) But I really did not know that they got married just few hours back. The guy initiated the conversation with me, and wanted to share with me his tragic story and a successful quest of marrying his love. He said that they got married in the morning and they are going to his hometown by train now. I congratulated them. They were exhilarated like anything. I am sure newly wed are pretty happy, but their happiness was having no ends! Yes, there were reasons. It was a love marriage, against the family wishes. The guy had spent nights in front of the girl's house. Guy had seen a police station for her, not just seen, but had been their for days for her.. Just to be with her for the rest of his life. Seeing all this in Hindi movies is not a new thing, but for me.. it was seeing in 'real'. And I so wanted to know more about them. It was so fascinating for me.. I know I am sounding funny.. but seriously, it was so fascinating! They were so made for each other. So madly in love. The guy had done all crazy things for her.. and the girl had pursued her parents to marry him with all the difficulties. They were on the verge of running away, to get married!! But then, the girl's parents agreed.

Then I just asked them, for how long they were in a relationship. And the answer was "3 months". It was a shock for me. It was not seeming a 3 months love affair at all.. I thought it might be a 3-4 year long relationship.. and then only the guy might have borne all those pains for her. But then, after seeing them, I realized, time is timeless. Time is just now. When you find you special someone, you do not need years to be sure about it. You are just sure. Your heart says it.

I was also so happy to see them. :) I was smiling my whole way back home.  I don't know from where... I had a dreams in my eyes after seeing them. Dream for them, dream for myself, a dream for anyone starting a new life. May God bless them with all the happiness! :)

Ciao! Take Care! Keep Smiling!! :)

I will be there when YOU need me!

I will be there when you need me! 

Each one of us must have said it once, twice or may be more than that to our loved ones, to our friends, to our families.. ! I have rarely seen these sugary words converted into real. Someone was there, was actually there when I needed, or even when I did not need in my life.. 

When "YOU" needed "I", the "I" was missing.. I don't know where, how, when, "I" lost. Sometimes, there comes a time when you are just emotionally so unwell, and you badly need to see somebody. That somebody could be your family, your best friend, your love.. it simply varies.  You feel lost when that somebody is not available, not right there with you. And all of a sudden, somebody comes.. somewhere from the light! And you feel relieved. You feel relaxed. Even if you remain quiet in front of that person, you feel you have spoken a lot, you have shared yourself. 

I have lots of thoughts on this.. May be it is pretty difficult to write on that. May be,  I am just missing 'that someone'. May be, I am just writing in spur of emotions. I am not too sure... 

I just wish and pray we realize the value of people before losing them. I wish we cherish their presence when we have them. I hope none of us is ever taken for granted. I wish all my readers are showered with loads and loads of  affection!

May God bless you!

Hopes, Friends, Family, Love, Life!

Hello Readers!

Hope you are doing fine! Was thinking something over the word called 'Life'. Life isn't something you can Google! You have to live through it and learn the process! Yeah.. I know you guys have read it somewhere.. I shared it over FB yesterday.. ;)

Life is difficult for those who see it that ways. Otherwise it is just so simple, keep living each moment the way it comes to you. Simple! Isn't it?

Hopes make life. We are living on hopes. We save, we plan for our future, we hope we will live tomorrow. I decide my to-do list for tomorrow, hoping to see the morning. We neglect our present, do our best to prepare well for tomorrow and feel tomorrow will come, just hopes!

Friends make life. We share, we care, we laugh, we fight, we cry, we hate but then still, we are friends. Definition of this word is changing day-by-day though. When we see a group of friends who are girls, we say.. how 'girly' they are! When we see a girl and a boy - friends, we say.. they must be in a relationship! Why can't be girls 'girly'? Aren't they supposed to be that ways? And Why can't a girl and a boy be just friends? Why do we need to name them as something?
Unfortunately, good friends are hard to find. If you are lucky enough to find some, you lose them, coz of blah blah reasons. Reasons varying from silly fights to nasty arguments. When I was a kid, I thought my number of friends would increase with time, as i will meet new people daily. It was sheer opposite. I had loads of friends when I was as young as 5 may be, and now I can count my friends on fingers. Perhaps, now I know what the word 'friend' means. As I grew up, I realized every other human being who speaks nice to u, isn't a friend. But still, they make your life, a major chunk of your happiness and sorrows!

Family, the one and only life line. A group of your loved ones, parents - who take all the pains to bring you up. Siblings - who take all the trouble to just be on your side, when everyone is just against you! The Extended Family - 'the society makers' - they contribute in one way or the other - visible/invisible, tangible/intangible. Blessed are the ones who have a wonderful family. Yes, family makes life! It is the life -line. :)

Love! Love is just love. Thousands of people couldn't explain this feeling. How a normal girl of early twenties can express this? All I know is, love is beautiful. Presence of love in your life changes it. This makes you feel that you are complete. The 'auto-correct' option. I want, my love to correct all my wrong doings. This is how he will complete me. We have stories of people dying for love, but I want to live for my love! Sharing joys, sharing sorrows and growing old! Thats it! This is life!

So, Life.. Hopes, Friends, Family, Love! I did not talk about emotions, I spoke about the group that create emotions. Whatever we are doing in our life, is somehow, somewhere connected to this group! I did not touch the materialistic aspect of life, coz I do not see life from that perspective. I know it is imperative for many people reading this. But then, this is complete for me. My life revolves around them only. Basic necessities of my life!

:) :) Take care! Ciao! God bless!

One side of the coin

Writing from a messed up state of mind. My heart is sinking, confused even after taking decisions, stuck in defining the rights or the wrongs! At times, you just HAVE to do somethings. You do not have choices. If you have the alternatives, they are not feasible. And that is the time, you lose your loved ones. You lose people who had trust in you, who believed you. A coin has two sides. We can just see one side of the coin at one time, the other is not visible to us. Mistrusting someone after just seeing the one side of the coin is equivalent to foolishness.

I have been doing pretty well, smiling since days now. Somewhere, down there in me... I have something which frightens me, even has the capability of killing me from inside. I am not letting that overpower my happiness, my smiles. Yes! I am being selfish! I never knew I can behave in that manner, but then yes! I am this only. Sometimes I feel understanding yourself is the primary task, the priority. Understanding others is 'long-way-to-go' for me.

I was holding sand, tried hard to hold. But the nature of sand is different. It can not be held tightly. The tighter you try to hold it, the faster it gets free from your grip.

Got to go! God bless! Ciao! Spread Smiles. I could not.

:) :) :) :)

Hello :) :) :) :)

I have loads of smiles on my face these days. I hope I am spreading some as well. :)

With time, life is changing. We have heard, 'the only thing constant in this world is change'. How true it is. My personal and professional, both lives are changing, I don't know to which way they are heading. But I am just happy, thankful and content with everything I am getting or may be I am losing somewhere in the journey.... I at times feel, we all welcome the positive changes and are very resistant to the negative ones. This is natural, but why do we do that? If you get an appreciation you feel amazing, if something negative happens it ridicules you. If we are welcoming one thing, why not welcome the other as well and atleast learn from it? I am really trying to accept everything coming my way! 'Everything' means actually everything! And may be thats the reason of my smiles. :)

My activity on this blog is becoming less, also, it is becoming very very close to my heart. Many kind people have acknowledged whatever little effort I put in while writing. This makes me understand how my writings are presumed. Generally, while reading we have some presumptions. I generally had the presumption while studying 'History', that it is boring. Similarly, may be when all the lovely people like you find time to read my writings you might have some presumptions. Some would call it really interesting, some would call it boring, some would even call it senseless! The best part is, after reading my blog, someone just said, I feel this is my heart out! I am really glad I could connect with someone through this.. through few of my thoughts.

I wish each one of us learn acceptance and accept smiles! :)

God bless! Ciao! :)

The difference...

Good Morning Readers!

I am loving this beautiful sunny morning today. :)

Yesterday, an old and closest friend of mine said.. "Nancy, you have changed.. you are not the same Nancy which I met more than a couple of years back. "This one sentence left me pondering over this. I couldn't say anything else than, yes! I have changed.

We do change with time, but our basic instinct remains the same.. isnt it? Still, we change. Each passing moment teaches us, each learning changes us. Now, it actually varies what the change leads to  - positivism or negativism. For me, its kinda mix of both. I have inculcated loads of + and - in me, which makes me, defines me, refines me. So, what is the problem if I am changing? This is me! If I am changing, things around me, people around me, which includes "YOU" as well, are changing me. I am affected by things. I am just like a normal human being, who gets impacted. I am not a super human! None of us is!! So, my point is.. if you are blaming somebody of his/her changed behavior, look at your "BIG" contribution in changing the other person.

I would say, I have evolved. People would call it 'changed'. I would say, I have grown-up. Even if I did not want to learn the hard realities of life, still I had to, and I did and I evolved/changed. Whatsoever! And just a question for all those who blame others for changing.. did you guys put a condition that you would only be there if I do not change?? I thought pure relations are unconditional.

Acceptance is needed.. Unconditional Acceptance. May be, a little deeper level of understanding helps too. I am really glad to say.. the friend who asked me the question, who made me ponder over it, accepts this full of faults 'Nancy' even. That is unconditional acceptance. I am glad I have friends like you all. I am really really obliged! Love you all !

Take Care! Keep Smiling! Ciao! :)

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The title of the post is something which conveys what is there in it. The title of my post is weird.. blank. May be it means, whatever I will mention is just blank, nothing. Actually yes. It is nothing, coz my mind is behaving such ways these days. Weirdly blank.

Where the whole world is completely drenched in love in this Valentine week. I somewhere find my own world a little blank. No reasons. Its not that there is lack of love around me. I am one of the few luckiest people in this whole wide world, as I am surrounded by love. Still why this vacuum?? Unanswerable.

It was so lovely to see people expressing love through roses yesterday. Even I asked a few people to give roses to their spouses! and yes, they did! Made me smile. :) When you are not married, you actually do every little thing like sending roses and all... but things tend to change after marriage. And that was one of the reasons, I so wanted them to express that they love through this little gesture. :)

I so wish that this Valentine Week could continue for 365 days! So that people could share and express more and more love. A week is really too short for this. One of my friends posted on FB a few days back... This Valentine Week is celebrated for expressing love. Then in the remaining days of the year, why don't we express it the way we do it now??

I may have an answer to this, making someone feel special actually can not be restricted to a few days. It completely depends, varies from person to person. I would say, time is just now. Future is uncertain. Let your loved ones know you care. :) Share love, spread love. :)

God bless you all! Ciao! Keep Smiling! :) :)

P.S.   I just changed my blog's colors to pink. Doesn't suit my personality though. :P But then, just for Valentine Week. ;) Will get back to my boring browns and blues soon.. ;)