The difference...

Good Morning Readers!

I am loving this beautiful sunny morning today. :)

Yesterday, an old and closest friend of mine said.. "Nancy, you have changed.. you are not the same Nancy which I met more than a couple of years back. "This one sentence left me pondering over this. I couldn't say anything else than, yes! I have changed.

We do change with time, but our basic instinct remains the same.. isnt it? Still, we change. Each passing moment teaches us, each learning changes us. Now, it actually varies what the change leads to  - positivism or negativism. For me, its kinda mix of both. I have inculcated loads of + and - in me, which makes me, defines me, refines me. So, what is the problem if I am changing? This is me! If I am changing, things around me, people around me, which includes "YOU" as well, are changing me. I am affected by things. I am just like a normal human being, who gets impacted. I am not a super human! None of us is!! So, my point is.. if you are blaming somebody of his/her changed behavior, look at your "BIG" contribution in changing the other person.

I would say, I have evolved. People would call it 'changed'. I would say, I have grown-up. Even if I did not want to learn the hard realities of life, still I had to, and I did and I evolved/changed. Whatsoever! And just a question for all those who blame others for changing.. did you guys put a condition that you would only be there if I do not change?? I thought pure relations are unconditional.

Acceptance is needed.. Unconditional Acceptance. May be, a little deeper level of understanding helps too. I am really glad to say.. the friend who asked me the question, who made me ponder over it, accepts this full of faults 'Nancy' even. That is unconditional acceptance. I am glad I have friends like you all. I am really really obliged! Love you all !

Take Care! Keep Smiling! Ciao! :)

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The title of the post is something which conveys what is there in it. The title of my post is weird.. blank. May be it means, whatever I will mention is just blank, nothing. Actually yes. It is nothing, coz my mind is behaving such ways these days. Weirdly blank.

Where the whole world is completely drenched in love in this Valentine week. I somewhere find my own world a little blank. No reasons. Its not that there is lack of love around me. I am one of the few luckiest people in this whole wide world, as I am surrounded by love. Still why this vacuum?? Unanswerable.

It was so lovely to see people expressing love through roses yesterday. Even I asked a few people to give roses to their spouses! and yes, they did! Made me smile. :) When you are not married, you actually do every little thing like sending roses and all... but things tend to change after marriage. And that was one of the reasons, I so wanted them to express that they love through this little gesture. :)

I so wish that this Valentine Week could continue for 365 days! So that people could share and express more and more love. A week is really too short for this. One of my friends posted on FB a few days back... This Valentine Week is celebrated for expressing love. Then in the remaining days of the year, why don't we express it the way we do it now??

I may have an answer to this, making someone feel special actually can not be restricted to a few days. It completely depends, varies from person to person. I would say, time is just now. Future is uncertain. Let your loved ones know you care. :) Share love, spread love. :)

God bless you all! Ciao! Keep Smiling! :) :)

P.S.   I just changed my blog's colors to pink. Doesn't suit my personality though. :P But then, just for Valentine Week. ;) Will get back to my boring browns and blues soon.. ;)

Crazy!

'Crazy' .. !! A word used quite often these days. No harm in using it as such. Something has happened in last few days, which made me think over its actual meaning. 

In case of some physical ailment, whatever its intensity may be, it can be atleast easily understood if not cured (at times). But when it comes to mental ailments, its so difficult to even assess what the problem is. In such cases, understanding the root cause is such a tedious and also a really important task. I am quite saddened to see, how even kids are caught under "Depression" these days! How? What circumstances lead them to that state? Studies?? Pressure from Parents to excel? I don't know.. I really don't know how this little thing in head called 'brain' drives our thought process, how  do we get depressed, how we get exhilarated.. ? I just simply know people with any kind of mental ailment need utmost support. They need to know that they are really important. Then why do they are secluded in the mental hospitals, alone? far from their loved ones? I know they are harmful.. for society, for themselves even. But don't they require the 'needed' support the most at that time? 

People who are not physically well are taken to the doctors. Similarly, people who are mentally unwell are taken to their 'special' doctors. Thats it. Simple. Giving such patients special attention is required. But specially secluding them is not the right way. 

I just wish well for everyone around. Thinking too much over anything can never be a solution. Nothing is as important as life. It is such a special gift from Almighty... We have one life to live, the present moment to live... 

God bless! Keep Smiling.. Ciao .. 

Long awaited.. :)

Hi :)

The beginning of this weekend is so beautiful... Sunny morning, Makar Sankranti (Maghi in Punjab)..  a lovely friend's birthday, smiling faces around (apart from Deepika's, some people work on Saturday mornings too, uff!!)

It feels so good when we are living that moment which we waited for long. When you made all the preparations for something, when you planned for something, and the day when it materializes, an amazing feeling! Yes, I am going through that 'amazing' feeling. I am really elated and I am smiling. And when you are smiling, you actually tend to see everyone else smiling too :) :)

I don't really have much to write.. Just hoping the best for everyone around. Special wishes for the 'birthday' friend! God bless.. !!

Ciao.. :) n yes.. keep smiling! :)

A fiction..

She was in early 20s. Very beautiful, a face of one in a million. She was fair, tall, carried herself really well. Belonged to rich family, had all the privileges. Never studied in a co-ed environment. She did not had a great intellect, but was smart. When she got a chance to go out and see the world, she flew away. Guys were attracted to her. Everyone wanted to be with her. Girls were jealous to see her beauty. She did not talk to many people. She was proud of what she was. People started hating her due to her reckless attitude. She was not beautiful by heart. May be, she was too much into herself, she couldn't understand that others are important too. She got along with a few friends, girls, obviously little less than her in everything. It was a fruit to her ego that guys stared at her, and not at her friends. She liked demeaning them. May be, she wanted to be above them in everything! But friends were always there with her. She was with them, just for the sake of a company.

Many people loved her, she ignored. Still a guy loved her truly, from the core of his heart. He was not great looking, but knew love is everything he can bestow on her. And yes, he was successful to steal her heart away. She fell deep in love. She was all he needed. Movies, shopping, night outs, long drives, hugs, kisses... a beautiful life, he ever imagined. She loved the way he loved her. Things were amazing.

18 months passed by.. merrily. Unexpectedly, he saw her with some guy at the movies late in the night. She said the other guy is a friend. He trusted her blindly. Things moved on fine. They were still a happy couple. After a month, he saw the other guy on Facebook, as a friendly gesture, he sent a friend request. The other guy added. He went to his profile, saw the pictures. That guy was engaged, engaged to a girl 10 months back. To all his surprise, he was engaged to someone who looked just like 'her', the love of his life.

He met her in the evening, they went out for dinner. After spending a lovely time, he said, "I met a friend of yours on Facebook."
She: "Who?" She asked with wide eyes.
He: "With whom you were out at the movies that day.. "
She: "Oh! Then??"
He: "Then nothing.. you know what, he is engaged?"
She: ... .. .. <speechless, horrified, worried>
He: I was amazed to see... that girl, with whom he is engaged..  she looked just like you. And I am really sad, you did not tell me you have a twin sister? :(
She: .. .. .. <teary eyes, shivering hands>
He: Its okay if you did not tell me, wish her good luck from my side.
She, spoke with teary eyes: I got engaged, almost a year back.
He: Stop kidding!!
She: I am sorry, I lied all this time.
He: .. .. .. <quiet>
She: .. .. .. <crying>
He: Stop crying, we still are friends. I wish the best for you.
He dropped her home. His trust was broken. He still was there for her.

Time has moved on, she is getting married. He is still a good friend.

Why do boys have such big heart?? Why he couldn't hate her?? Why he trusted her so blindly?? Why she did all this to him??
Unanswered questions.. !! 

New :)

Helloz..

The holiday season is on! Hope my readers have got smiles on their face while reading this post. If unfortunately, you don't have.. please bring it for my sake, coz I have mentioned it :) :) Great! Thank you! :) Spread smiles ahead with your smile! I read somewhere.. 'You should keep smiling, no one knows when someone is falling in love with your smile'. Rest is your decision. ;)

With this year ending, I am kind of planning to think afresh, start afresh and welcoming the new year with novelty. Many people would be thinking to do the same. A great step I must stay. We ought to leave the haunting past and our mistakes behind to move ahead. I might have done thousands of blunders till now, I am glad to say, I was forgiven always. Thankfully! But why people like me are still thinking over them?? It is high time, to see the beautiful present and relish it, and to await the future. We generally crib about the things we do not have with us, rather than being happy for what we have with us. It is said 'Count your blessings'. Try and spend few minutes on counting your blessings. I am sure, you will forget about the 'missing' things.

We are on this earth with some responsibilties. In running here and there for fulfilling them, we forget to live life our own ways. Slowly and slowly, we even forget what our 'way of living' is. We substitute the life with work and responsibilties. Let us try to do stupid things off and on. A simple way to smile. :)

I was just wondering why do we wait for "new year" for taking these pledges. As each moment is New, we can do that in every 'new moment'. I wish we all do something which makes us and others smile daily. May we all be blessed with all the happiness!

God bless..! Take Care! Keep Smiling! Welcome the new year with new hopes! :) :) Ciao..

Relationship!! Saturation..!

Hello J

I am just loving this chilling weather!! It feels so thrilling when you cannot see anything beyond few meters. All you can see and sense is fog, some icy crystals around you. Something cold touching you and filling in your breath. Just wow!! J .. but not so good part is.. people like me have to go to office in this beautiful weather early in the mornings, while others are cuddling in their warm quilts. Let me try to find out something positive here too… yes, I get to feel the lovely cold, when others cant. J I believe I wrote something more and serious about winters in one of my previous posts too. Yes, winters are close to my heart. I simply love them and I can write on them a lot! But would not do it right now. You can have a sigh of relief. It is not as boring as it seems  to you now. ;)

I read somewhere once you start with writing a blog, you are very active and you write pretty often and later on your pace slows down. I am finding it true may be. Yeah.. the craze of writing and wanting to express is high when you start. As soon as the time moves on, the passion reduces, may be ability to spend the same time in writing is no more possible. Isn’t it the same with everything?? Whenever we start with something new.. we are too excited for that, when time passes on, we tend to get slow. May be our interest reduces. Normal human tendency! May it be.. studying something new, a new job, a new TV series, a new friend, or may be a new relationship or may it be anything!

I would love to write on relationships.. one of my favorite topics to talk on! When it is new, you have lots to talk about. You can speak for hours, you can listen for hours, or maybe you can just be quiet for hours and you love even that. Everything is so quick in the beginning, and then, it just slows down. Things don’t move. You might feel saturated. You feel this is it! Heights! And you even do not realize when it became actually ‘it’! I have seen people getting bored..  and I am glad to say I have seen people actually made for each other. I must say, I truly admire them. I wish them all the good wishes. But for those who get ‘bored’, trust me guys, it is not always true that the other person is boring!! You need to look at yourself in the mirror and realize where you went wrong. It takes two hands to clap. Isn’t it? Think and react. You alone can’t make a relationship work, and you alone are not responsible for making it so called ‘boring’. If two people walk together on the same road with different pace, they are not going along together. For going with each other, your pace has to be same. 

Good Luck!! J

Keep Smiling! J Ciao!