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Things have changed a lot with me since the last time I wrote here... my home has changed, I have left the place where I had spent loads of togetherness with my dear friend, colleague and room mate! My workstation at office has changed.. people who were surrounding me have changed. Still, one thing is the same.. my messy mind and emotions..
I was just thinking today.. how difficult it is to decide your life partner. Spending whole life with one human being! And deciding who would that be! Also, if you did not get that lucky chance to fall in love, you have to find the right one in few meetings. Seems impossible to me at times. But then yes, it happens, my parents got together this way.. and other couples in my family too. When I think about it, it seems pretty difficult, near to impossible. Then a thought makes me realize, that you eventually fall in love with the person you stay... you start caring and sharing everything about that person. Love just happens, it comes on its own. If you are adjusting and accepting, love comes in. There are few things which one expects, simple things like time to spend with each other, small occasions together, the essence which makes one feel cared and loved.. If you have got all this, understanding the other person becomes so simple, so easy.
In case you are getting married to the person you already know and you love, you need not to spend time in knowing that person. You kind of .. are pre-aware of likes, dislikes, nature, reactions, emotions of that person. You get ample time to explore the good and the bad things.In that case the clause of adjustment and acceptance starts even before you get married. When you are in a relationship, you start expecting and accepting. What I have felt in my life, the lower you expect, the happier you are. Suppose I am not expecting wishes from my old friends on my birthday, and they call, it comes as a surprise and it makes me so happy! Similarly, If I am already expecting their calls, and unfortunately I do not receive the calls, I would be so disappointed. This "Expectation" funda applies everywhere, in every relation! Getting married is far beyond than just loving each other. We use the word 'life partner'. This is so apt. Sharing your life with someone! There are many compromises which both need to make. When the girl leaves her 'own' family, and joins her new family she has to leave behind her near and dear ones and accept the other family! And the guy has to make her comfortable, he has to frame a complete new world for her. Loads of challenges creep in in all this.
I am sure I am not much aware the life after marriage, still had few thoughts, wanted to put in words.. It gives some solace to my messy mind! :)
By the way, the new place is good, people are welcoming here. Change is good. :)
You guys take care, keep smiling! Ciao! :)
Things have changed a lot with me since the last time I wrote here... my home has changed, I have left the place where I had spent loads of togetherness with my dear friend, colleague and room mate! My workstation at office has changed.. people who were surrounding me have changed. Still, one thing is the same.. my messy mind and emotions..
I was just thinking today.. how difficult it is to decide your life partner. Spending whole life with one human being! And deciding who would that be! Also, if you did not get that lucky chance to fall in love, you have to find the right one in few meetings. Seems impossible to me at times. But then yes, it happens, my parents got together this way.. and other couples in my family too. When I think about it, it seems pretty difficult, near to impossible. Then a thought makes me realize, that you eventually fall in love with the person you stay... you start caring and sharing everything about that person. Love just happens, it comes on its own. If you are adjusting and accepting, love comes in. There are few things which one expects, simple things like time to spend with each other, small occasions together, the essence which makes one feel cared and loved.. If you have got all this, understanding the other person becomes so simple, so easy.
In case you are getting married to the person you already know and you love, you need not to spend time in knowing that person. You kind of .. are pre-aware of likes, dislikes, nature, reactions, emotions of that person. You get ample time to explore the good and the bad things.In that case the clause of adjustment and acceptance starts even before you get married. When you are in a relationship, you start expecting and accepting. What I have felt in my life, the lower you expect, the happier you are. Suppose I am not expecting wishes from my old friends on my birthday, and they call, it comes as a surprise and it makes me so happy! Similarly, If I am already expecting their calls, and unfortunately I do not receive the calls, I would be so disappointed. This "Expectation" funda applies everywhere, in every relation! Getting married is far beyond than just loving each other. We use the word 'life partner'. This is so apt. Sharing your life with someone! There are many compromises which both need to make. When the girl leaves her 'own' family, and joins her new family she has to leave behind her near and dear ones and accept the other family! And the guy has to make her comfortable, he has to frame a complete new world for her. Loads of challenges creep in in all this.
I am sure I am not much aware the life after marriage, still had few thoughts, wanted to put in words.. It gives some solace to my messy mind! :)
By the way, the new place is good, people are welcoming here. Change is good. :)
You guys take care, keep smiling! Ciao! :)
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