Autumn? Winter?

Hello  J

I believe all of us are so confused these days about this weather.. Autumn.. Winters?? What actually is the season these days in Delhi? I am so dying to feel Dilli ki Sardi. On a serious thought, I was thinking have we hurt our mother Earth to this extent?? Winters are becoming shorter year over year. Global Warming! Something which was a GD topic at one time for MBA. Go green, save Earth! Nah.. I am not writing about this.. this post wont be a write up on Global Warming for sure!

I wanted to talk about this beautiful season. People like me, who love winters like anything are waiting so badly. I remember my mom taking out the woolens and keeping aside those naphthalene balls from the big bags. I remember the chilling water.. the dewy mornings and the foggy evenings.. Yes, those were the times….

When I was a kid, I remember listening on the TV channels that ‘so and so people died due to winters’.  We listen to such news today also. The way it affected me then and now is completely different. The thought process of a kid is so superficial.. I used to think how can one actually die due to winters?? It is just a season when you need to wear so many clothes and you don’t feel like bathing. As I grew up, I got the answer.. each and every one of us is not that lucky to have a home, a family and some nice woolens.. and even a blanket where one can cuddle in and hide oneself from the cold.

Lucky people like me are waiting for winters to feel the cold and to get a feel of being lazy in bed and in the warm quilts. And yes, also to show off  the good winter clothes.. But people who have only a couple of clothes to wear, who do not even have a shelter on their heads.. who sleep on the road.. they do not want winters to come at all. They do not want them or their family to shiver and die. I so empathize their situation, but then am I doing anything for them? Except cursing the government for inflation and doing nothing to reduce poverty? No! Nothing! So, what shall I do? Shower money when a beggar comes and begs? No! This is not the solution either. I feel, the money collected like this is used in a form which we can’t even imagine. I feel I need to do something strong for this. Yes, I, one from a billion population of India cannot actually decide one fine day and reduce the poverty and save people from dying from winters. But yes, I can atleast put my little but strong effort in this area. Now, I really need to think upon what can I do…. May God bless them. I don’t want anyone to die due to winters in the coming season.

My winters, by the way, have partially started.. using warm water.. avoiding bathing ;) being lazy… and I am sure this will increase with time. I can’t believe I have already started getting late to office due to my being lazy. I hope I don’t miss my office due to this reason. These days, I just can’t afford to actually. My dear friend Deepika has already started feeling the Christmas winters ;) And yes, wanted to give a very big congratulation for her beginning of achievements! J Would end on this smiling note.

Take Care.. Happy Winters.. Keep Smiling J Ciao.. 

The Gurupurab and The FaceBook Vacation

Helloz… :)

Happy Birthday Guru Nanak Dev Ji!! Happy Gurupurab to everyone! May you all be blessed .. :) . This is one of the days when I so miss Punjab and the Gurudwaras and the Diwali-like lights all over. Things are not very similar in Gurgaon. If you wish to pay your homage, you might need to find one Gurudwara here. And when you find one, it will be too far from your place. Cultures are so different all over the world. Today morning, me and Deepika were talking about Gurupurab, we both have different meanings of it, coz of our different bringing up, different cultures. Wow! Isn’t it wonderful actually? How many culture reside in this one small NCR? I am recalling what I wrote in my Geography exams in class 6th or may be 7th. “India is a country of diverse cultures, glorious history, outstanding monuments, various religions and festivals.” A perfect example of ‘Unity in Diversity.’ Same lines written by all the C.B.S.E. students ;). It is true, indeed.

In my school, Gurupurab is celebrated on a wide scale, with due prayers and karah parshad.. (aate ka halwa) :).  All my Punjabi friends might have updated there FB status as “Happy Gurupurab to all” or.. “lakh Khushiya Patshahiya je satrguru nadir kare..” or may be some more spiritual messages. But I couldn’t see.. coz I have deactivated my FB profile. :( Yes! Nancy, who updates FB almost every second hour with something has deactivated FB..!!! Uff, I am acting so weird! But I am so glad, I got calls from my lovable friends who couldn’t see me on FB. My sweetheart friends missed me :) and questioned me why I am not there? and where are my irritating updates? All I said was.. on a vacation! ;)

I also missed a lot of things. A few of my friend’s birthdays, some new ‘articles’ thing launched by FB, going though a few people’s profile.. being updated by the changes in relationship status of people around.. ;) the changes in profile pictures.. and surely all the new interesting updates. How reliant I was on Facebook for so many things.. and so many of us are. Good or Bad? I don’t know! For me, its doing a good thing, keeping me attached with the people around. But then, I was just checking am I getting addicted?? Got the answer.. No, I am not. :). But then , yes, I missed it badly.. am coming soon.. very soon :)

Thanks for reading. Take Care! Ciao! Keep Smiling :)

Communication.. Right Communication..

Hello Readers.. :)

I was just thinking.. how important it is for me to speak.. to express what I wish to. I would surely die without it. This Communication thing is really imperative! Atleast for me, it is close to breathing. It feels so good to be heard, to be understood. It is surely an unsaid need. At times, it is greed to do all the talking but not wanting to listen at all. And what happens when you are misunderstood, even after communicating??  Disaster!!

Trust me; this is happening in this ‘Big Boss Season 5’ atleast! ;) I don’t follow it die hard.. but yes.. saw a few episodes just to see thodhi mirchi.. ;) and I was like OMG!! It is said something, and these gals!! Uff, they understand something, which is totally different!! 
The most important thing in communications is to hear, what is not being said through words. Gestures are so important too.. the tone, the eyes and the actions.. At times, your eyes say something else and your words are on the other direction. These situations are like “have-tos”. When you have decided not to express the reality.. you just.. have to hide the reality with words. Yes, it is said, Eyes never lie.. But, everyone and anyone can’t read them also. 


I believe, don’t delay in saying what you feel.. tomorrow never comes. Say it now, with no regrets! :) Have you ever felt your life might have been entirely different had you said something when it was needed or done something at that time? Yes, all of us might have felt. And we regret when we feel so. When I am dying, I do not want to feel that I have turned into a wrong person coz I did not do what I wanted to for the whole of my life. My each action today would make me, would nurture me. And that is why, I said what I wanted to.. :) 


But now, have I become expressionless? Did I ever wanted to do this? I do not know!!!..  No.. I don't speak, my eyes speak, which can't be read easily! I am short of words to say what I wish to, my gestures are speaking a lot. I hope in this speechless communication, I am understood the right way.


Ciao.. :) Take Care! Keep Smiling :)

After 30 months..

Hi :)

I hope everyone's Diwali went great! Mine was truly fantabulous!! Nothing was very special.. as usual lights and crackers.. the only thing special was my wonderful family!! Its great to be home.. I am sure.. a few people may have missed going home this Diwali. I was feeling really bad for Deepika.. I had to leave her alone at Gurgaon. But I know, she would have managed.. ;)

Things have changed a lot since I am in Gurgaon. Not at my home, but surely with me. People are same at home, things are same at home. The feel and smell of home is still the same. But surely, I have changed. One of my closest friends, wanted me to write on this. I believe, this thing is better noticed by people around.. who knew Nancy before and now. With this noble thought in my mind, I seriously asked my dad.. "Papa, have I changed a lot in past 30 months?" My dad replied.. "You should know better!! Check your weight now, compare it with 30 months before and you will realize!" and he giggled. I have gained.. and papa never miss a chance to remind me this. ;) :P So, yes! This is one of the major changes..

Other ones.. yes.. I never used to travel alone. I couldn't dream of even a 30 kms journey alone. And now, I travel like 70 kms daily.. for my workplace. I have to come to Jalandhar alone too. See, how Brave I have become ;)

I just could't say NO. I couldn't set my own priorities. I did not realize how I should work upon my own happiness. Now after these 30 Months.. I have learnt to say NO. I can see my priorities. I almost know how can I be happy. And I know who is actually important for me.. and who is not. I can speak out what actually my heart means. I have become stronger emotionally. May be, environment in my home town was so nice.. I never knew I need to be tougher. So, now I am pretty strong. Yes, betrayals hurt now too. But the difference is in coming out of them. My expectations have reduced drastically. I am glad.

I was on a pocket-money. I was a graduate. After 30 months, my family and God ji have made me capable enough of earning. Yes, this is indeed a very big change. Handling money is not as easy as it seems. People like me, who are away from home and have started earning suddenly are generally not able to manage it. You can say, I am blessed! I am able to manage money.. thoda-bahut ;) :P

There might be many changes more.. may be I can't figure them out. It would be so good if my readers who know me can share.. I will add them up too! ;)

Ciao.. Keep Smiling!! :)

Opinion? or Backbiting??

I was wondering why people like talking about others a lot? Is it that their life is not at all interesting, and hence they need some X, Y or Z to talk about? I am using pretty nice words (talking about others) here for backbiting and bitching actually. A few of my readers who indulge in this may not like, or even may hate my post.. but still this is what I actually think.

I got to know a few people commenting on what kind of a person Nancy is. I can estimate out of those, 99.9% comments on me would be the distorted truth. Yes, I am calling the mirchi wali gossip as ‘distorted truth’. The rest 0.1% would be those, who actually know me. I still don’t know, why am I given that much importance over others.. as in.. why am I the privileged one?? The topic of discussion?? Is your own life so boring, that you can’t even talk about it?? Whatever.. it is a democratic country.. n yes, we are ‘free’ to express our opinions. But try and kind of avoid speaking shit about others without full information. Yes, yes!  You have got full rights to can hate me for this post, but this is what I actually felt!!

As, the idiom says, ‘All that glitters is not gold’. So, it will not be good for me to blame anyone. It’s just that I wish people could think and then speak. Presumptions are not always true. At times, whatever we see with our eyes is not always true. But we humans are kind of structured in this manner. We tend to trust our eyes, more than our instinct. I would surely prefer following my instinct. I believe, good instinct usually tells you what to do long before your head has figured it out!! But we wait for our head to speak something, and in that waiting, we are too late! I am also not very sure.. whether which one of these will be giving the positive results.. but still I don’t want to be late atleast... I am actually falling in love with this full of surprises life.. :)

Ciao.. Take Care.. Keep Smiling!! 

Love is in the air ♥

Helloz.. 

Now, after around 6 months of my post graduation.. I am seeing many engaged couples around, who were once 'In a relationship' in college. People actually, moving seriously towards accepting each other forever and ever and ever. It’s a beautiful thing actually to accept someone so completely. Yes, once you change your relationship status from 'In a relationship' to 'Engaged' or may be to 'Married”, you just cannot go back. I am surrounded by people madly in love.. who really want to be with each other for the rest of their lives. I somewhere find it a herculean task actually. I don’t think someone would be able to tolerate me forever!! I am a difficult person.. and so.. many of us are. But, I am sure, when we decide to be with someone, we accept everything! Everything here means, positives, negatives, neutrals.. everything! At times, a word called adjustment comes into play. I personally feel.. this adjustment should be replaced with unconditional acceptance. Life would seem simpler and sweeter. :)

As per Hindi movies, you can’t forget your so-called first ‘love’. I said 'so-called', coz at times, you yourself do not know that is it really love? or just a liking.. or many be infatuation. It is also said, Love never changes.. I am not actually very much in favour of these statements. I have people around, who were not very successful in their first relationships.. and have moved on and are living a great life. And for some, the first relationships were so painful, that they have literally started hating the other person. This is how, Love converts into Hate. How can this happen? I find it so weird. But then, yes, it does happen.

What do we all want in the end? A hand to hold for the rest of the life, a shoulder to lean on whenever you feel like, someone to share the actual ‘us’, somebody who can understand each and every bit of us… someone.. who can claim the complete right on you.. who can make you feel complete! It is as simple as that, a few emotional needs. It is also, as complicated as it can be!!

Just ‘being what you are’ makes things easier. There is nothing better than ‘being loved for what you are’!! Why do people try and pretend to be someone else? Why don’t people actually say what they are? Why do people do not speak their heart out?? Trust me; doing all this is a necessity for everything to be true!!

And yes, I am coming across a few compliments.. with people waiting for me to write again. I am truly thankful to you all for appreciating me. Thank you so much for reading.. :)

Ciao.. Take Care! Keep Smiling! Be yourself!! :)

There is only one success – to live your life, your own ways!

Each and every one of us is striving for success, spending enormous hours in a day working for this. I have people around me who work like anything for their one goal – Success! The meaning of this word surely would vary from individual to individual. For some money, for some fame, for some calm mind, for some ‘attaining salvation’, I believe it can be anything under this earth!

And for people like me, the only success is ‘to live my life, my own ways’. Being an independent human being, with an independent mind, I truly believe I have the right to live my life, the way I wish too. I really admire the care of my loved ones. But all fake care over and above this is not tolerable at all. I do not really want to be irritated by interference. Another point which I was thinking of, many a times, people so want to do something, but do not do it! Reasons – Society, what would people say!! I really wonder, in such so busy world, how and why people get some time to talk about others.

At times, our own apprehensive approach becomes hurdle in doing the right things and right time. I truly don’t know what is right or what is wrong. These days, I am just doing what I feel like and I am really loving it. It feels so good .. I am not being apprehensive for anything, may it be me or people around me. ‘Wow’ feeling…!! :)

Try doing what you wish to do, speak out, don't care about the irrelevant people!! In one word, "Live".

Take Care Guys!! Keep Smiling.. Ciao  :) :) :) :)