Destiny!!

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Hope all is fine with you guys! To all of those who are fighting for their lives in Uttarakhand, we all are proud of you for your undying spirit! You all rock!! :) Surely, you will be back home soon. Many thanks to all those working hard to get them back home. Respect!

I was always a true believer in destiny and still I am. But their is a little difference in my opinion these days. I used to think what is meant to happen will happen, irrespective of my efforts. At times, when I could not get what I wanted, I used to feel satiated by thinking that its alright, it wasn't in my destiny! I feel this thinking can make a person very passive, that goal-centric attitude may end. My thoughts have refined to become different, more with If-I-want-it-I-have-to-fight-for-it attitude. You are the creator of your own destiny!! Things will happen as per your twists and turns with life. We say "Leave everything on Lord, He will help us." Right! Agreed! Leave everything on Him, He will help us.. but then after making due efforts. Stand up! Be Bold! Be strong! Take the whole responsibility on your own shoulders. And then let the success follow you.

William Shakespeare said.. "It is not in stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves."

I don't know how this destiny thing works, but if I really try to see things practically.. I feel everything happening with me is coz I have done something for it. I am not being over-confident here. I am just trying to say.. things work out only when you make some efforts to work them out! At times, we make loads of efforts but still we do not get that thing. And we close that topic by saying, it was not destined for us. Excuse me! The moment of truth is - We had not done enough efforts for that thing. I might feel I have worked hard and stuff.. but still.. I didn't get it, coz getting it required more effort - more smart work - more hard work!! As simple as that.

We all might have heard, "karam kar, phal ki iccha na kar". These days the "phal" is highly important. We want our "karam" to give us the the right result. Efforts need to be planned in right direction. :)
All the best to everyone reading this! May you all achieve what you deserve. God bless you. Take care. Ciao... :)

Every Action has an Equal and Opposite Reaction!

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Hope you all are fine and are enjoying this lazy "Sun" day!!

"Every Action has and Equal and Opposite Reaction". True and Apt! You may call it as Newton's third law of motion or the law of Karma. It seems valid for both. Scientifically as quoted by Sir Isaac Newton. So, If you guys know me, I am really not going to talk about science here. Science and me.. you know.. can't go along really well. I will definitely pull this towards my favorite topic of relations, emotions and behavior.

To link it up with Law of Karma, you may think about the quote "as you sow, so shall you reap". We have heard many stories related to this since our childhood. But today I wanted to link this action-reaction thing with something different.

I read a short story somewhere, would love to share it here. There were few elite ladies having dinner in one of finest of the restaurants in France. They were enjoying their dinner with the costliest of Champagne. As we all know, where there are ladies, the gossips and the talks are endless. So, all of them were engrossed in their conversations and praising each others costly dresses and necklace and all other 'n' number of things related to that. All of a sudden, a flying cockroach somehow arrives and it sits on one of the ladies hair, all of them on the table started shouting and this created chaos in that serene environment of the restaurant. Rather than trying to remove that cockroach from her hair, everyone was just shouting about it. After sometime, the waiter arrived, he just silently picked that cockroach, and threw it outside the restaurant. He was very calm and composed and did what was required to solve the problem. So, everything in few minutes went back to normal. People continued enjoying their dinner and went back in their talks.

So, this incident or story if you may call it, made me just ponder over the "reaction" of both - the ladies and the waiter. The situation or the problem i.e. the cockroach was same. The difference was in the reaction which was taken by the other person. And reactions of both were almost opposite. Whereas the reaction of the ladies created chaos, the reaction of the waiter pacified the situation and the people. Hence its pretty simple, its our reaction to the things that make the difference. That is why, even after facing similar problems, some people rise against all odds and some still remain in the vicious circle of problems.

Let us just think a little before reacting to the situations around us. Might help us in solving most of the concerns which we have in life! God bless you !! Take Care! Ciao!

P.S. I am scared of cockroaches too, might have also shouted. It is easy to say things rather than doing it!! :P

Never love anybody who treats you ordinary!

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Hope everything is going superb in your lives. I just wanted to talk a little more on this quote from Oscar Wilde - "Never love anybody who treats you ordinary!"

If in case you are an avid reader of my blogs, you might have seen me writing a lot on relationships and emotions. I feel emotions are the building blocks in every human being's life. Atleast, they impact me hugely, am sure they might be impacting you as well. I have people in my life who love fully and so whole-heartily Also, I have seen people  who take their loved ones for-granted. There is an innate desire in me, (and in most humans), to be loved, like I am a rare trophy which one can get and deserve, which one can feel proud to have and accept, which no ordinary man can even dare to have a glance at! I would want to be special, like real special for someone! :)

I am blessed to be considered very very special from each and every member of my family. Still, that 'special someone' would be different. For me, he would be the one for whom, I will start feeling homesick from the day I meet him!! Imaginations! Hopes! Life! Sums up everything, every girl's dreams!

Life is taking various turns, some moving ahead and at times the 'U- turns' too. I don't want those U-turns ever. I want to go ahead and move towards my real path. But then, do I know what actually my real path is? Is there a possibility that the U-turn is the right path?? God knows! I heavily rely on Him. I generally wait for a hint from Him. And He graciously shows me the silver lining always. As I always say, whatever happens, happens for good! God is great, He will sure take care of me and everyone! :)

Anyways, you guys take care and have a lovely weekend! May God bless! Ciao!

Spread smiles!! :) :)

Humanity still exists!

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An incident has made me really elated today. My trust in people of this world has risen with today's trivial episode. I would love to narrate it!

I was out for a movie today with a friend (would call him A). After the movie, we did some shopping and started to our homes in two separate 'green-yellow' Gurgaon autos. I was still on my way back, when I got a call from A that he has left his shopping bags in the auto. A pair of Red Tape Shoes and a couple of Lee Tees lost? Automatically, my mind started calculating the loss. Anyways, we decided to reach back to the mall, rather outside the mall, where autos are parked. Still I knew, we wont get back the things.

We rushed back to that place from where we had boarded the auto previously. Just as CID, we started to look for that auto-wala. But no luck. We "interrogated" other auto drivers with the description - 'we are looking for a tall, slim, less hair auto driver'!! And there were 20 odd with same description, but we could not find the one we were looking for. Did I mention somewhere that A had a train to catch in a couple of hours? Oh, I did not. So, he had to travel and he so wanted to rush leaving the Shoes and the Tees behind. Somehow I pursued him to stay for 10 more minutes.

Then out of nowhere the auto-wala appeared. That poor guy had gone back to A's home to return the stuff and A had come to shopping mall searching for him. The auto guy had given the bags to A's neighbour and had taken the neighbour's contact details. This made us get the stuff back. The elation of seeing the humanity was much more than getting the shopping bags back.

This is not the end of 'humanity'. Gurgaon is a weird city, here neighbours do not know each other and we usually stay in apartments. That is why, we have many neighbours, but we do not know each other. So, in other words, that neighbour did not know how to find A in locality. He did not have his contact details either, neither did he knew where exactly A stays. He checked out the bills, had reached the mall and the place from where we had shopped to know A's contact details. Wonderful gesture!! And that too, just to return someone's shopping bags. I was so amazed and happy to know, still there are people in this world who make favors to others without any personal benefits and selfish interest.

We daily confront and complain about the selfish and mean people in the world. But today's episode is making me thank all those unknown people who have a clear and pious heart. Finding such people in a city like Gurgaon is really very difficult. We can still find good people in smaller cities, but people staying in Gurgaon are just too into themselves. They do not want interference in their lives, neither do they interfere in other's lives. This attitude towards life, makes one very restrictive. People do not initiate for help. Yeah, people do come up with their favors, when they are aware they would get something in return.

But then, there is a silver lining. Few good and wonderful people. :)

I am still smiling with what happened today. May God bless!! Take Care! Keep Smiling!! Ciao!! :)

My messy thoughts - Marriage this time!

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Things have changed a lot with me since the last time I wrote here... my home has changed, I have left the place where I had spent loads of togetherness with my dear friend, colleague and room mate! My workstation at office has changed.. people who were surrounding me have changed. Still, one thing is the same.. my messy mind and emotions..

I was just thinking today.. how difficult it is to decide your life partner. Spending whole life with one human being! And deciding who would that be! Also, if you did not get that lucky chance to fall in love, you have to find the right one in few meetings. Seems impossible to me at times. But then yes, it happens, my parents got together this way.. and other couples in my family too. When I think about it, it seems pretty difficult, near to impossible. Then a thought makes me realize, that you eventually fall in love with the person you stay... you start caring and sharing everything about that person. Love just happens, it comes on its own. If you are adjusting and accepting, love comes in. There are few things which one expects, simple things like time to spend with each other, small occasions together, the essence which makes one feel cared and loved.. If you have got all this, understanding the other person becomes so simple, so easy.

In case you are getting married to the person you already know and you love, you need not to spend time in knowing that person. You kind of .. are pre-aware of likes, dislikes, nature, reactions, emotions of that person. You get ample time to explore the good and the bad things.In that case the clause of adjustment and acceptance starts even before you get married. When you are in a relationship, you start expecting and accepting. What I have felt in my life, the lower you expect, the happier you are. Suppose I am not expecting wishes from my old friends on my birthday, and they call, it comes as a surprise and it makes me so happy! Similarly, If I am already expecting their calls, and unfortunately I do not receive the calls, I would be so disappointed. This "Expectation" funda applies everywhere, in every relation! Getting married is far beyond than just loving each other. We use the word 'life partner'. This is so apt. Sharing your life with someone! There are many compromises which both need to make. When the girl leaves her 'own' family, and joins her new family she has to leave behind her near and dear ones and accept the other family! And the guy has to make her comfortable, he has to frame a complete new world for her. Loads of challenges creep in in all this.

I am sure I am not much aware the life after marriage, still had few thoughts, wanted to put in words.. It gives some solace to my messy mind! :)

By the way, the new place is good, people are welcoming here. Change is good. :)

You guys take care, keep smiling! Ciao! :)

Just Married..

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 I met a really filmy couple a few days back. While travelling in train from Gurgaon to my home town, I got a chance to sit with two 'just married love-birds'. Their gestures were making it pretty evident that they were JUST married. (If you know, what I mean here! Lol !!) But I really did not know that they got married just few hours back. The guy initiated the conversation with me, and wanted to share with me his tragic story and a successful quest of marrying his love. He said that they got married in the morning and they are going to his hometown by train now. I congratulated them. They were exhilarated like anything. I am sure newly wed are pretty happy, but their happiness was having no ends! Yes, there were reasons. It was a love marriage, against the family wishes. The guy had spent nights in front of the girl's house. Guy had seen a police station for her, not just seen, but had been their for days for her.. Just to be with her for the rest of his life. Seeing all this in Hindi movies is not a new thing, but for me.. it was seeing in 'real'. And I so wanted to know more about them. It was so fascinating for me.. I know I am sounding funny.. but seriously, it was so fascinating! They were so made for each other. So madly in love. The guy had done all crazy things for her.. and the girl had pursued her parents to marry him with all the difficulties. They were on the verge of running away, to get married!! But then, the girl's parents agreed.

Then I just asked them, for how long they were in a relationship. And the answer was "3 months". It was a shock for me. It was not seeming a 3 months love affair at all.. I thought it might be a 3-4 year long relationship.. and then only the guy might have borne all those pains for her. But then, after seeing them, I realized, time is timeless. Time is just now. When you find you special someone, you do not need years to be sure about it. You are just sure. Your heart says it.

I was also so happy to see them. :) I was smiling my whole way back home.  I don't know from where... I had a dreams in my eyes after seeing them. Dream for them, dream for myself, a dream for anyone starting a new life. May God bless them with all the happiness! :)

Ciao! Take Care! Keep Smiling!! :)

I will be there when YOU need me!

I will be there when you need me! 

Each one of us must have said it once, twice or may be more than that to our loved ones, to our friends, to our families.. ! I have rarely seen these sugary words converted into real. Someone was there, was actually there when I needed, or even when I did not need in my life.. 

When "YOU" needed "I", the "I" was missing.. I don't know where, how, when, "I" lost. Sometimes, there comes a time when you are just emotionally so unwell, and you badly need to see somebody. That somebody could be your family, your best friend, your love.. it simply varies.  You feel lost when that somebody is not available, not right there with you. And all of a sudden, somebody comes.. somewhere from the light! And you feel relieved. You feel relaxed. Even if you remain quiet in front of that person, you feel you have spoken a lot, you have shared yourself. 

I have lots of thoughts on this.. May be it is pretty difficult to write on that. May be,  I am just missing 'that someone'. May be, I am just writing in spur of emotions. I am not too sure... 

I just wish and pray we realize the value of people before losing them. I wish we cherish their presence when we have them. I hope none of us is ever taken for granted. I wish all my readers are showered with loads and loads of  affection!

May God bless you!