Friends.. Family

Hi..

When I say ‘Friends’.. I recall very few names in my heart.. my closest buddies.. Those people who know you to the core and still love you, and they are always there. One of my friends, a new friend actually, wanted me to write on this. But then, there is endless to write on friends. And still I am so unable to find the apt words. For people like me, who are staying so away from home, these friends become family. So, this post is really really so close to my heart.

That Airtel song.. ‘Kyunki Har ek friend zaroori hota hai’, it is so true. Each friend is an important part of life. There are many kinds of friends. Many are there only when they need you, and few are there at all the times. I am so proud to say all my friends are of the second category. On the top of them is my best buddy.. he is just there at all the times. A true friend!! And I confess, I do not reciprocate. L I do not know, at times I am so weird.. I just cannot help. I am sorry. Yes, this word may not help. But then, I am so so sorry. I wish I am there at all the times.

You might have hundreds of people in your friend list on Facebook, but you are available on chat to only few. If I start deleting people whom I do not interact with, I am sure my friend list will become really shorter. There are various ways through which people become friends.. school, college, work, friends of friends, social networking sites.. even this blog gave me a friend. J I so want to share the way people ask for being friends on Facebook. It really is hilarious at times. All the girls atleast might have experienced it and most of the guys have done it! ;) 

But I still do not know what friendship is. Knowing someone so true and loving for the same? Is it? May be.. but such friends are hard to find. A friend knows you from where you have come, what you have become and where you want to reach. I feel a single friend can become a world to me, but then truth should be there. It is such a precious relationship one can ever have. Our family is pre-decided by God. But our friends.. we chose them, we decide who should be there in our thick and thin. Just try and make this choice so diligently. I hope I do the same. To actually have a friend, you have to be a friend. Yes, reciprocation is important too! For my buddies, I am glad I have all of you here. Trust me, I am there and I love you all from the core of my heart. I don’t feel I need to name my friends here. Those who actually are will surely smile after reading this post.J And believe me, you are an important part of my life. Just be there.

Take care! Keep Smiling J Ciao. 

Autumn? Winter?

Hello  J

I believe all of us are so confused these days about this weather.. Autumn.. Winters?? What actually is the season these days in Delhi? I am so dying to feel Dilli ki Sardi. On a serious thought, I was thinking have we hurt our mother Earth to this extent?? Winters are becoming shorter year over year. Global Warming! Something which was a GD topic at one time for MBA. Go green, save Earth! Nah.. I am not writing about this.. this post wont be a write up on Global Warming for sure!

I wanted to talk about this beautiful season. People like me, who love winters like anything are waiting so badly. I remember my mom taking out the woolens and keeping aside those naphthalene balls from the big bags. I remember the chilling water.. the dewy mornings and the foggy evenings.. Yes, those were the times….

When I was a kid, I remember listening on the TV channels that ‘so and so people died due to winters’.  We listen to such news today also. The way it affected me then and now is completely different. The thought process of a kid is so superficial.. I used to think how can one actually die due to winters?? It is just a season when you need to wear so many clothes and you don’t feel like bathing. As I grew up, I got the answer.. each and every one of us is not that lucky to have a home, a family and some nice woolens.. and even a blanket where one can cuddle in and hide oneself from the cold.

Lucky people like me are waiting for winters to feel the cold and to get a feel of being lazy in bed and in the warm quilts. And yes, also to show off  the good winter clothes.. But people who have only a couple of clothes to wear, who do not even have a shelter on their heads.. who sleep on the road.. they do not want winters to come at all. They do not want them or their family to shiver and die. I so empathize their situation, but then am I doing anything for them? Except cursing the government for inflation and doing nothing to reduce poverty? No! Nothing! So, what shall I do? Shower money when a beggar comes and begs? No! This is not the solution either. I feel, the money collected like this is used in a form which we can’t even imagine. I feel I need to do something strong for this. Yes, I, one from a billion population of India cannot actually decide one fine day and reduce the poverty and save people from dying from winters. But yes, I can atleast put my little but strong effort in this area. Now, I really need to think upon what can I do…. May God bless them. I don’t want anyone to die due to winters in the coming season.

My winters, by the way, have partially started.. using warm water.. avoiding bathing ;) being lazy… and I am sure this will increase with time. I can’t believe I have already started getting late to office due to my being lazy. I hope I don’t miss my office due to this reason. These days, I just can’t afford to actually. My dear friend Deepika has already started feeling the Christmas winters ;) And yes, wanted to give a very big congratulation for her beginning of achievements! J Would end on this smiling note.

Take Care.. Happy Winters.. Keep Smiling J Ciao.. 

The Gurupurab and The FaceBook Vacation

Helloz… :)

Happy Birthday Guru Nanak Dev Ji!! Happy Gurupurab to everyone! May you all be blessed .. :) . This is one of the days when I so miss Punjab and the Gurudwaras and the Diwali-like lights all over. Things are not very similar in Gurgaon. If you wish to pay your homage, you might need to find one Gurudwara here. And when you find one, it will be too far from your place. Cultures are so different all over the world. Today morning, me and Deepika were talking about Gurupurab, we both have different meanings of it, coz of our different bringing up, different cultures. Wow! Isn’t it wonderful actually? How many culture reside in this one small NCR? I am recalling what I wrote in my Geography exams in class 6th or may be 7th. “India is a country of diverse cultures, glorious history, outstanding monuments, various religions and festivals.” A perfect example of ‘Unity in Diversity.’ Same lines written by all the C.B.S.E. students ;). It is true, indeed.

In my school, Gurupurab is celebrated on a wide scale, with due prayers and karah parshad.. (aate ka halwa) :).  All my Punjabi friends might have updated there FB status as “Happy Gurupurab to all” or.. “lakh Khushiya Patshahiya je satrguru nadir kare..” or may be some more spiritual messages. But I couldn’t see.. coz I have deactivated my FB profile. :( Yes! Nancy, who updates FB almost every second hour with something has deactivated FB..!!! Uff, I am acting so weird! But I am so glad, I got calls from my lovable friends who couldn’t see me on FB. My sweetheart friends missed me :) and questioned me why I am not there? and where are my irritating updates? All I said was.. on a vacation! ;)

I also missed a lot of things. A few of my friend’s birthdays, some new ‘articles’ thing launched by FB, going though a few people’s profile.. being updated by the changes in relationship status of people around.. ;) the changes in profile pictures.. and surely all the new interesting updates. How reliant I was on Facebook for so many things.. and so many of us are. Good or Bad? I don’t know! For me, its doing a good thing, keeping me attached with the people around. But then, I was just checking am I getting addicted?? Got the answer.. No, I am not. :). But then , yes, I missed it badly.. am coming soon.. very soon :)

Thanks for reading. Take Care! Ciao! Keep Smiling :)

Communication.. Right Communication..

Hello Readers.. :)

I was just thinking.. how important it is for me to speak.. to express what I wish to. I would surely die without it. This Communication thing is really imperative! Atleast for me, it is close to breathing. It feels so good to be heard, to be understood. It is surely an unsaid need. At times, it is greed to do all the talking but not wanting to listen at all. And what happens when you are misunderstood, even after communicating??  Disaster!!

Trust me; this is happening in this ‘Big Boss Season 5’ atleast! ;) I don’t follow it die hard.. but yes.. saw a few episodes just to see thodhi mirchi.. ;) and I was like OMG!! It is said something, and these gals!! Uff, they understand something, which is totally different!! 
The most important thing in communications is to hear, what is not being said through words. Gestures are so important too.. the tone, the eyes and the actions.. At times, your eyes say something else and your words are on the other direction. These situations are like “have-tos”. When you have decided not to express the reality.. you just.. have to hide the reality with words. Yes, it is said, Eyes never lie.. But, everyone and anyone can’t read them also. 


I believe, don’t delay in saying what you feel.. tomorrow never comes. Say it now, with no regrets! :) Have you ever felt your life might have been entirely different had you said something when it was needed or done something at that time? Yes, all of us might have felt. And we regret when we feel so. When I am dying, I do not want to feel that I have turned into a wrong person coz I did not do what I wanted to for the whole of my life. My each action today would make me, would nurture me. And that is why, I said what I wanted to.. :) 


But now, have I become expressionless? Did I ever wanted to do this? I do not know!!!..  No.. I don't speak, my eyes speak, which can't be read easily! I am short of words to say what I wish to, my gestures are speaking a lot. I hope in this speechless communication, I am understood the right way.


Ciao.. :) Take Care! Keep Smiling :)