Humanity still exists!

Hello Readers!

An incident has made me really elated today. My trust in people of this world has risen with today's trivial episode. I would love to narrate it!

I was out for a movie today with a friend (would call him A). After the movie, we did some shopping and started to our homes in two separate 'green-yellow' Gurgaon autos. I was still on my way back, when I got a call from A that he has left his shopping bags in the auto. A pair of Red Tape Shoes and a couple of Lee Tees lost? Automatically, my mind started calculating the loss. Anyways, we decided to reach back to the mall, rather outside the mall, where autos are parked. Still I knew, we wont get back the things.

We rushed back to that place from where we had boarded the auto previously. Just as CID, we started to look for that auto-wala. But no luck. We "interrogated" other auto drivers with the description - 'we are looking for a tall, slim, less hair auto driver'!! And there were 20 odd with same description, but we could not find the one we were looking for. Did I mention somewhere that A had a train to catch in a couple of hours? Oh, I did not. So, he had to travel and he so wanted to rush leaving the Shoes and the Tees behind. Somehow I pursued him to stay for 10 more minutes.

Then out of nowhere the auto-wala appeared. That poor guy had gone back to A's home to return the stuff and A had come to shopping mall searching for him. The auto guy had given the bags to A's neighbour and had taken the neighbour's contact details. This made us get the stuff back. The elation of seeing the humanity was much more than getting the shopping bags back.

This is not the end of 'humanity'. Gurgaon is a weird city, here neighbours do not know each other and we usually stay in apartments. That is why, we have many neighbours, but we do not know each other. So, in other words, that neighbour did not know how to find A in locality. He did not have his contact details either, neither did he knew where exactly A stays. He checked out the bills, had reached the mall and the place from where we had shopped to know A's contact details. Wonderful gesture!! And that too, just to return someone's shopping bags. I was so amazed and happy to know, still there are people in this world who make favors to others without any personal benefits and selfish interest.

We daily confront and complain about the selfish and mean people in the world. But today's episode is making me thank all those unknown people who have a clear and pious heart. Finding such people in a city like Gurgaon is really very difficult. We can still find good people in smaller cities, but people staying in Gurgaon are just too into themselves. They do not want interference in their lives, neither do they interfere in other's lives. This attitude towards life, makes one very restrictive. People do not initiate for help. Yeah, people do come up with their favors, when they are aware they would get something in return.

But then, there is a silver lining. Few good and wonderful people. :)

I am still smiling with what happened today. May God bless!! Take Care! Keep Smiling!! Ciao!! :)

My messy thoughts - Marriage this time!

Hello Readers!

Things have changed a lot with me since the last time I wrote here... my home has changed, I have left the place where I had spent loads of togetherness with my dear friend, colleague and room mate! My workstation at office has changed.. people who were surrounding me have changed. Still, one thing is the same.. my messy mind and emotions..

I was just thinking today.. how difficult it is to decide your life partner. Spending whole life with one human being! And deciding who would that be! Also, if you did not get that lucky chance to fall in love, you have to find the right one in few meetings. Seems impossible to me at times. But then yes, it happens, my parents got together this way.. and other couples in my family too. When I think about it, it seems pretty difficult, near to impossible. Then a thought makes me realize, that you eventually fall in love with the person you stay... you start caring and sharing everything about that person. Love just happens, it comes on its own. If you are adjusting and accepting, love comes in. There are few things which one expects, simple things like time to spend with each other, small occasions together, the essence which makes one feel cared and loved.. If you have got all this, understanding the other person becomes so simple, so easy.

In case you are getting married to the person you already know and you love, you need not to spend time in knowing that person. You kind of .. are pre-aware of likes, dislikes, nature, reactions, emotions of that person. You get ample time to explore the good and the bad things.In that case the clause of adjustment and acceptance starts even before you get married. When you are in a relationship, you start expecting and accepting. What I have felt in my life, the lower you expect, the happier you are. Suppose I am not expecting wishes from my old friends on my birthday, and they call, it comes as a surprise and it makes me so happy! Similarly, If I am already expecting their calls, and unfortunately I do not receive the calls, I would be so disappointed. This "Expectation" funda applies everywhere, in every relation! Getting married is far beyond than just loving each other. We use the word 'life partner'. This is so apt. Sharing your life with someone! There are many compromises which both need to make. When the girl leaves her 'own' family, and joins her new family she has to leave behind her near and dear ones and accept the other family! And the guy has to make her comfortable, he has to frame a complete new world for her. Loads of challenges creep in in all this.

I am sure I am not much aware the life after marriage, still had few thoughts, wanted to put in words.. It gives some solace to my messy mind! :)

By the way, the new place is good, people are welcoming here. Change is good. :)

You guys take care, keep smiling! Ciao! :)

Just Married..

Hello Readers!!

 I met a really filmy couple a few days back. While travelling in train from Gurgaon to my home town, I got a chance to sit with two 'just married love-birds'. Their gestures were making it pretty evident that they were JUST married. (If you know, what I mean here! Lol !!) But I really did not know that they got married just few hours back. The guy initiated the conversation with me, and wanted to share with me his tragic story and a successful quest of marrying his love. He said that they got married in the morning and they are going to his hometown by train now. I congratulated them. They were exhilarated like anything. I am sure newly wed are pretty happy, but their happiness was having no ends! Yes, there were reasons. It was a love marriage, against the family wishes. The guy had spent nights in front of the girl's house. Guy had seen a police station for her, not just seen, but had been their for days for her.. Just to be with her for the rest of his life. Seeing all this in Hindi movies is not a new thing, but for me.. it was seeing in 'real'. And I so wanted to know more about them. It was so fascinating for me.. I know I am sounding funny.. but seriously, it was so fascinating! They were so made for each other. So madly in love. The guy had done all crazy things for her.. and the girl had pursued her parents to marry him with all the difficulties. They were on the verge of running away, to get married!! But then, the girl's parents agreed.

Then I just asked them, for how long they were in a relationship. And the answer was "3 months". It was a shock for me. It was not seeming a 3 months love affair at all.. I thought it might be a 3-4 year long relationship.. and then only the guy might have borne all those pains for her. But then, after seeing them, I realized, time is timeless. Time is just now. When you find you special someone, you do not need years to be sure about it. You are just sure. Your heart says it.

I was also so happy to see them. :) I was smiling my whole way back home.  I don't know from where... I had a dreams in my eyes after seeing them. Dream for them, dream for myself, a dream for anyone starting a new life. May God bless them with all the happiness! :)

Ciao! Take Care! Keep Smiling!! :)

I will be there when YOU need me!

I will be there when you need me! 

Each one of us must have said it once, twice or may be more than that to our loved ones, to our friends, to our families.. ! I have rarely seen these sugary words converted into real. Someone was there, was actually there when I needed, or even when I did not need in my life.. 

When "YOU" needed "I", the "I" was missing.. I don't know where, how, when, "I" lost. Sometimes, there comes a time when you are just emotionally so unwell, and you badly need to see somebody. That somebody could be your family, your best friend, your love.. it simply varies.  You feel lost when that somebody is not available, not right there with you. And all of a sudden, somebody comes.. somewhere from the light! And you feel relieved. You feel relaxed. Even if you remain quiet in front of that person, you feel you have spoken a lot, you have shared yourself. 

I have lots of thoughts on this.. May be it is pretty difficult to write on that. May be,  I am just missing 'that someone'. May be, I am just writing in spur of emotions. I am not too sure... 

I just wish and pray we realize the value of people before losing them. I wish we cherish their presence when we have them. I hope none of us is ever taken for granted. I wish all my readers are showered with loads and loads of  affection!

May God bless you!

Hopes, Friends, Family, Love, Life!

Hello Readers!

Hope you are doing fine! Was thinking something over the word called 'Life'. Life isn't something you can Google! You have to live through it and learn the process! Yeah.. I know you guys have read it somewhere.. I shared it over FB yesterday.. ;)

Life is difficult for those who see it that ways. Otherwise it is just so simple, keep living each moment the way it comes to you. Simple! Isn't it?

Hopes make life. We are living on hopes. We save, we plan for our future, we hope we will live tomorrow. I decide my to-do list for tomorrow, hoping to see the morning. We neglect our present, do our best to prepare well for tomorrow and feel tomorrow will come, just hopes!

Friends make life. We share, we care, we laugh, we fight, we cry, we hate but then still, we are friends. Definition of this word is changing day-by-day though. When we see a group of friends who are girls, we say.. how 'girly' they are! When we see a girl and a boy - friends, we say.. they must be in a relationship! Why can't be girls 'girly'? Aren't they supposed to be that ways? And Why can't a girl and a boy be just friends? Why do we need to name them as something?
Unfortunately, good friends are hard to find. If you are lucky enough to find some, you lose them, coz of blah blah reasons. Reasons varying from silly fights to nasty arguments. When I was a kid, I thought my number of friends would increase with time, as i will meet new people daily. It was sheer opposite. I had loads of friends when I was as young as 5 may be, and now I can count my friends on fingers. Perhaps, now I know what the word 'friend' means. As I grew up, I realized every other human being who speaks nice to u, isn't a friend. But still, they make your life, a major chunk of your happiness and sorrows!

Family, the one and only life line. A group of your loved ones, parents - who take all the pains to bring you up. Siblings - who take all the trouble to just be on your side, when everyone is just against you! The Extended Family - 'the society makers' - they contribute in one way or the other - visible/invisible, tangible/intangible. Blessed are the ones who have a wonderful family. Yes, family makes life! It is the life -line. :)

Love! Love is just love. Thousands of people couldn't explain this feeling. How a normal girl of early twenties can express this? All I know is, love is beautiful. Presence of love in your life changes it. This makes you feel that you are complete. The 'auto-correct' option. I want, my love to correct all my wrong doings. This is how he will complete me. We have stories of people dying for love, but I want to live for my love! Sharing joys, sharing sorrows and growing old! Thats it! This is life!

So, Life.. Hopes, Friends, Family, Love! I did not talk about emotions, I spoke about the group that create emotions. Whatever we are doing in our life, is somehow, somewhere connected to this group! I did not touch the materialistic aspect of life, coz I do not see life from that perspective. I know it is imperative for many people reading this. But then, this is complete for me. My life revolves around them only. Basic necessities of my life!

:) :) Take care! Ciao! God bless!

One side of the coin

Writing from a messed up state of mind. My heart is sinking, confused even after taking decisions, stuck in defining the rights or the wrongs! At times, you just HAVE to do somethings. You do not have choices. If you have the alternatives, they are not feasible. And that is the time, you lose your loved ones. You lose people who had trust in you, who believed you. A coin has two sides. We can just see one side of the coin at one time, the other is not visible to us. Mistrusting someone after just seeing the one side of the coin is equivalent to foolishness.

I have been doing pretty well, smiling since days now. Somewhere, down there in me... I have something which frightens me, even has the capability of killing me from inside. I am not letting that overpower my happiness, my smiles. Yes! I am being selfish! I never knew I can behave in that manner, but then yes! I am this only. Sometimes I feel understanding yourself is the primary task, the priority. Understanding others is 'long-way-to-go' for me.

I was holding sand, tried hard to hold. But the nature of sand is different. It can not be held tightly. The tighter you try to hold it, the faster it gets free from your grip.

Got to go! God bless! Ciao! Spread Smiles. I could not.

:) :) :) :)

Hello :) :) :) :)

I have loads of smiles on my face these days. I hope I am spreading some as well. :)

With time, life is changing. We have heard, 'the only thing constant in this world is change'. How true it is. My personal and professional, both lives are changing, I don't know to which way they are heading. But I am just happy, thankful and content with everything I am getting or may be I am losing somewhere in the journey.... I at times feel, we all welcome the positive changes and are very resistant to the negative ones. This is natural, but why do we do that? If you get an appreciation you feel amazing, if something negative happens it ridicules you. If we are welcoming one thing, why not welcome the other as well and atleast learn from it? I am really trying to accept everything coming my way! 'Everything' means actually everything! And may be thats the reason of my smiles. :)

My activity on this blog is becoming less, also, it is becoming very very close to my heart. Many kind people have acknowledged whatever little effort I put in while writing. This makes me understand how my writings are presumed. Generally, while reading we have some presumptions. I generally had the presumption while studying 'History', that it is boring. Similarly, may be when all the lovely people like you find time to read my writings you might have some presumptions. Some would call it really interesting, some would call it boring, some would even call it senseless! The best part is, after reading my blog, someone just said, I feel this is my heart out! I am really glad I could connect with someone through this.. through few of my thoughts.

I wish each one of us learn acceptance and accept smiles! :)

God bless! Ciao! :)

The difference...

Good Morning Readers!

I am loving this beautiful sunny morning today. :)

Yesterday, an old and closest friend of mine said.. "Nancy, you have changed.. you are not the same Nancy which I met more than a couple of years back. "This one sentence left me pondering over this. I couldn't say anything else than, yes! I have changed.

We do change with time, but our basic instinct remains the same.. isnt it? Still, we change. Each passing moment teaches us, each learning changes us. Now, it actually varies what the change leads to  - positivism or negativism. For me, its kinda mix of both. I have inculcated loads of + and - in me, which makes me, defines me, refines me. So, what is the problem if I am changing? This is me! If I am changing, things around me, people around me, which includes "YOU" as well, are changing me. I am affected by things. I am just like a normal human being, who gets impacted. I am not a super human! None of us is!! So, my point is.. if you are blaming somebody of his/her changed behavior, look at your "BIG" contribution in changing the other person.

I would say, I have evolved. People would call it 'changed'. I would say, I have grown-up. Even if I did not want to learn the hard realities of life, still I had to, and I did and I evolved/changed. Whatsoever! And just a question for all those who blame others for changing.. did you guys put a condition that you would only be there if I do not change?? I thought pure relations are unconditional.

Acceptance is needed.. Unconditional Acceptance. May be, a little deeper level of understanding helps too. I am really glad to say.. the friend who asked me the question, who made me ponder over it, accepts this full of faults 'Nancy' even. That is unconditional acceptance. I am glad I have friends like you all. I am really really obliged! Love you all !

Take Care! Keep Smiling! Ciao! :)

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The title of the post is something which conveys what is there in it. The title of my post is weird.. blank. May be it means, whatever I will mention is just blank, nothing. Actually yes. It is nothing, coz my mind is behaving such ways these days. Weirdly blank.

Where the whole world is completely drenched in love in this Valentine week. I somewhere find my own world a little blank. No reasons. Its not that there is lack of love around me. I am one of the few luckiest people in this whole wide world, as I am surrounded by love. Still why this vacuum?? Unanswerable.

It was so lovely to see people expressing love through roses yesterday. Even I asked a few people to give roses to their spouses! and yes, they did! Made me smile. :) When you are not married, you actually do every little thing like sending roses and all... but things tend to change after marriage. And that was one of the reasons, I so wanted them to express that they love through this little gesture. :)

I so wish that this Valentine Week could continue for 365 days! So that people could share and express more and more love. A week is really too short for this. One of my friends posted on FB a few days back... This Valentine Week is celebrated for expressing love. Then in the remaining days of the year, why don't we express it the way we do it now??

I may have an answer to this, making someone feel special actually can not be restricted to a few days. It completely depends, varies from person to person. I would say, time is just now. Future is uncertain. Let your loved ones know you care. :) Share love, spread love. :)

God bless you all! Ciao! Keep Smiling! :) :)

P.S.   I just changed my blog's colors to pink. Doesn't suit my personality though. :P But then, just for Valentine Week. ;) Will get back to my boring browns and blues soon.. ;)

Crazy!

'Crazy' .. !! A word used quite often these days. No harm in using it as such. Something has happened in last few days, which made me think over its actual meaning. 

In case of some physical ailment, whatever its intensity may be, it can be atleast easily understood if not cured (at times). But when it comes to mental ailments, its so difficult to even assess what the problem is. In such cases, understanding the root cause is such a tedious and also a really important task. I am quite saddened to see, how even kids are caught under "Depression" these days! How? What circumstances lead them to that state? Studies?? Pressure from Parents to excel? I don't know.. I really don't know how this little thing in head called 'brain' drives our thought process, how  do we get depressed, how we get exhilarated.. ? I just simply know people with any kind of mental ailment need utmost support. They need to know that they are really important. Then why do they are secluded in the mental hospitals, alone? far from their loved ones? I know they are harmful.. for society, for themselves even. But don't they require the 'needed' support the most at that time? 

People who are not physically well are taken to the doctors. Similarly, people who are mentally unwell are taken to their 'special' doctors. Thats it. Simple. Giving such patients special attention is required. But specially secluding them is not the right way. 

I just wish well for everyone around. Thinking too much over anything can never be a solution. Nothing is as important as life. It is such a special gift from Almighty... We have one life to live, the present moment to live... 

God bless! Keep Smiling.. Ciao .. 

Long awaited.. :)

Hi :)

The beginning of this weekend is so beautiful... Sunny morning, Makar Sankranti (Maghi in Punjab)..  a lovely friend's birthday, smiling faces around (apart from Deepika's, some people work on Saturday mornings too, uff!!)

It feels so good when we are living that moment which we waited for long. When you made all the preparations for something, when you planned for something, and the day when it materializes, an amazing feeling! Yes, I am going through that 'amazing' feeling. I am really elated and I am smiling. And when you are smiling, you actually tend to see everyone else smiling too :) :)

I don't really have much to write.. Just hoping the best for everyone around. Special wishes for the 'birthday' friend! God bless.. !!

Ciao.. :) n yes.. keep smiling! :)

A fiction..

She was in early 20s. Very beautiful, a face of one in a million. She was fair, tall, carried herself really well. Belonged to rich family, had all the privileges. Never studied in a co-ed environment. She did not had a great intellect, but was smart. When she got a chance to go out and see the world, she flew away. Guys were attracted to her. Everyone wanted to be with her. Girls were jealous to see her beauty. She did not talk to many people. She was proud of what she was. People started hating her due to her reckless attitude. She was not beautiful by heart. May be, she was too much into herself, she couldn't understand that others are important too. She got along with a few friends, girls, obviously little less than her in everything. It was a fruit to her ego that guys stared at her, and not at her friends. She liked demeaning them. May be, she wanted to be above them in everything! But friends were always there with her. She was with them, just for the sake of a company.

Many people loved her, she ignored. Still a guy loved her truly, from the core of his heart. He was not great looking, but knew love is everything he can bestow on her. And yes, he was successful to steal her heart away. She fell deep in love. She was all he needed. Movies, shopping, night outs, long drives, hugs, kisses... a beautiful life, he ever imagined. She loved the way he loved her. Things were amazing.

18 months passed by.. merrily. Unexpectedly, he saw her with some guy at the movies late in the night. She said the other guy is a friend. He trusted her blindly. Things moved on fine. They were still a happy couple. After a month, he saw the other guy on Facebook, as a friendly gesture, he sent a friend request. The other guy added. He went to his profile, saw the pictures. That guy was engaged, engaged to a girl 10 months back. To all his surprise, he was engaged to someone who looked just like 'her', the love of his life.

He met her in the evening, they went out for dinner. After spending a lovely time, he said, "I met a friend of yours on Facebook."
She: "Who?" She asked with wide eyes.
He: "With whom you were out at the movies that day.. "
She: "Oh! Then??"
He: "Then nothing.. you know what, he is engaged?"
She: ... .. .. <speechless, horrified, worried>
He: I was amazed to see... that girl, with whom he is engaged..  she looked just like you. And I am really sad, you did not tell me you have a twin sister? :(
She: .. .. .. <teary eyes, shivering hands>
He: Its okay if you did not tell me, wish her good luck from my side.
She, spoke with teary eyes: I got engaged, almost a year back.
He: Stop kidding!!
She: I am sorry, I lied all this time.
He: .. .. .. <quiet>
She: .. .. .. <crying>
He: Stop crying, we still are friends. I wish the best for you.
He dropped her home. His trust was broken. He still was there for her.

Time has moved on, she is getting married. He is still a good friend.

Why do boys have such big heart?? Why he couldn't hate her?? Why he trusted her so blindly?? Why she did all this to him??
Unanswered questions.. !!